国产av不卡一区二区_欧美xxxx做受欧美_成年人看的毛片_亚洲第一天堂在线观看_亚洲午夜精品久久久中文影院av_8x8ⅹ国产精品一区二区二区_久久精品国产sm调教网站演员_亚洲av综合色区无码一二三区_成人免费激情视频_国产九九九视频

USEUROPEAFRICAASIA 中文雙語Fran?ais
China
Home / China / Life

10 commandments of marriage

By Raymond Zhou | China Daily | Updated: 2013-10-04 09:00

Mother-in-law's vigilance in watching over her daughter's welfare may call for a feminist interpretation

In a family portrait, the image of the mother-in-law tends to be caricatured. This is true in both China and Western countries. In American movies and TV shows, the mere mention of her would open up the spigot of black humor as attempts to silence her or keep her away from the young couple turn into a wellspring of jokes. In China she is still an object of filial respect, but with mixed feelings.

For a young man to win the hand of his beloved, he has to undergo a series of tests, the ultimate one being the approval of her mother. In the traditional arrangement, the wife and his mother were almost born nemeses, with the young one in the role of the oppressed before morphing into the oppressor when she attains the status of mother-in-law. However, in a modern Chinese family this is less true simply because young couples and their parents rarely live under one roof now, thus reducing the chances of daily friction.

But the wife's mother is in a special position. She can call it quits before the young ones tie the knot. Well, unless they decide to elope, a notion that has never taken root in China. It would mean the breakup of the mother-daughter bond, a big no-no in any culture. So, what can the young man do except to please her old folks, especially her mother?

If I were consulted on this, my suggestion to the young man would be: Have a sweet tongue. Be nice and considerate. You're taking away her darling daughter, in name at least. And always take presents. But a recent online posting has rendered my advice into a joke. It lists the top 10 demands by a typical Chinese mother-in-law, and suffice to say, it does not include the fuzzy warmth and bribery tactic I had in mind. The conditions set by the mother-in-law are nothing short of brutally straightforward and materialistic.

1. The young man hoping to marry her daughter must have an apartment no smaller than 100 square meters. If he lives in a big city, that would equate to at least 20 years of his earnings, and that assumes he has a decent income.

2. He must own a car worth at least 200,000 yuan ($32,000; 24,000 euros).

3. A 100,000 yuan cash deposit in her name - no, not the mother-in-law's but the daughter's.

4. Hire a maid when she gives birth.

5. Have a grand wedding.

6. Buy only imported milk formula.

7. All his salary must be handed over to his wife.

8. All holidays must be spent visiting her parents, not his.

9. Plan at least one holiday a year.

10. And, certainly not least, be loyal to his wife.

The good thing is, the final demand does not involve money. The rest is possible only if the young man has rich parents. There is little likelihood he can independently earn enough to satisfy all of the first nine demands. I've heard of Indian parents squirming over the big dowry necessary to marry off their daughters. I don't know whether it's exaggerated or how widespread the practice is. In certain parts of China, or more accurately in some Chinese families, the chance to marry off a daughter is tantamount to obtaining a king's ransom.

The above list is no doubt a result of embellishment. Most young couples in China get help from both sides to start a new family. Although his parents tend to chip in more than hers, folks on both sides think and act for the sake of the young ones. There is no point turning the marriage into a corporate hostile takeover, leaving his family to pay off mountains of debt.

However, some regional customs are quite rigid on what exactly each side should bring to the new family, and the housing cost - already beyond the means of most young families in urban China - has essentially thrown a monkey wrench into a complicated situation. In a financially uncertain world, what can a mother do to ensure the long-lasting happiness of her daughter? You cannot accuse the mother-in-law of being selfish because none of her demands is for her; they are all for her daughter. She wants her daughter to be secure financially.

A romantic would probably cry out in despair. You see, of the 10 demands - or should I call them commandments? - there is no mention that he must love her daughter. Being loyal is not exactly the same as being in love, although they overlap a great deal. In a sense, this list speaks much of the environment of materialism we are living in. To a lot of people, financial wherewithal is the top quality that defines a man. Sure, good looks count. So do a good education and a great sense of humor. But if you cannot bring in the dough, the other things don't last, and that's not just the quirk of a mother-in-law, but the shared belief of many.

In a way, the mother-in-law is the ultimate feminist - with a Chinese twist of course. She staunchly guards the interests of one woman, her daughter. If she herself had defied her parents and married someone with no money, she would relentlessly use her own experience as a cautionary tale. Her effort to extract as much wealth as possible from his family is eerily similar to the work of a divorce lawyer in the US, preemptively arranged though and with more prescience than any marriage counselor.

Some of her requests, such as having a big wedding, are in the face-saving spirit of Chinese culture. But it may befuddle a few non-Chinese that she demands all his salary be handed over to his wife. Not a joint account, mind you, but essentially everything in her name. This is not a feminist fantasy. In some places like Shanghai, it is accepted as the norm. The husband gives all his earnings to his wife and, in return, he will get a monthly stipend as pocket money, for buying cigarettes and other things. This is not for the eventuality of a divorce, but rather, for depriving him of any potential misuse of funds. You may say that families with this kind of arrangement have placed women on a higher economic status because in traditional China, women rarely had access to the family's economic lifeline.

With the mother-in-law lording over everything, a young man in China can be driven to achievements or to depression. Love is a great driving force. With such practical goals, he may have more focus and more purpose. He may also be tempted to cut corners when he senses the near impossibility of them all. While having the world's second-largest GDP has brought better living to all in China, today's youngsters are operating in a pressure cooker. They have more choices and also more competition. They have more chances to succeed, but many of them fall backwards and become at-home recluses whose only link to the outside world is through the Internet. They live off their parents even if they are just scraping by. The 10 commandments of the mother-in-law will serve to further polarize the two camps, I suppose, by galvanizing some and eliminating others from the pool of the eligible - eligible for marriage and, beyond it, for an active lifestyle.

Contact the writer at raymondzhou@chinadaily.com.cn

10 commandments of marriage

Editor's picks
Copyright 1995 - . All rights reserved. The content (including but not limited to text, photo, multimedia information, etc) published in this site belongs to China Daily Information Co (CDIC). Without written authorization from CDIC, such content shall not be republished or used in any form. Note: Browsers with 1024*768 or higher resolution are suggested for this site.
License for publishing multimedia online 0108263

Registration Number: 130349
FOLLOW US
欧美精品一线| 久久精品国产亚洲精品| 在线成人免费观看| 欧美日韩中文字幕| 亚洲综合视频在线| 亚洲视频免费在线观看| 国产精品午夜久久| 久久精品综合网| 99久久国产综合精品女不卡| 国产成人在线视频网站| 精久久久久久久久久久| 麻豆专区一区二区三区四区五区| 日韩精品免费专区| 噜噜噜91成人网| 欧美一级二区| 久久久xxx| 日本伊人午夜精品| 久久不射网站| 视频一区国产视频| 青青青伊人色综合久久| 日韩精品午夜视频| 麻豆免费精品视频| 久久av老司机精品网站导航| 精品一区二区三区蜜桃| 国内一区二区在线| 国产乱子轮精品视频| 国产尤物一区二区| 国产自产2019最新不卡| 老汉av免费一区二区三区 | 91精品在线观看入口| 欧美在线免费观看亚洲| 大荫蒂欧美视频另类xxxx | 亚洲天堂男人的天堂| 一道本一区二区三区| 国产午夜精品久久久久免费视| 国产毛片在线看| 免费在线国产| 一二三四在线视频观看社区| 二区中文字幕| 天天色天天射天天干| 国内一级毛片| 天天干 天天插| 黄色成人免费观看| 男人j桶女人的网站| 白浆爆出在线观看| 国产一二区视频| 伊人资源视频在线| 最近2018年手机中文在线| 日本高清视频网站www| 午夜黄色一级片| 亚洲综合图片| 北岛玲一区二区三区| 成人午夜影视| 久久bbxx| heyzo在线播放| 最近高清中文在线字幕在线观看1| 自拍视频在线看| 国产情侣一区二区三区| 欧美久久亚洲| 日韩动漫一区| 日韩免费高清| 我不卡影院28| 亚洲专区一区| 免费看精品久久片| 国产mv日韩mv欧美| 久久久午夜精品理论片中文字幕| 国产精品美女久久久久久久久 | 欧美日产国产精品| 日韩一区二区电影| 日韩成人在线视频| 日韩在线精品一区| 午夜精品国产精品大乳美女| 最好2018中文免费视频| 国产精品伦理一区二区三区| wwwxx在线观看| 性色av一区二区| 九色在线视频蝌蚪| 伊人影院蕉久影院在线播放| 一区二区电影免费观看| 亚州欧美在线| 亚洲精品国模| 午夜精品网站| 国产精品入口麻豆高清| 色视频免费版高清在线观看| 自拍偷拍精选| 日本一本草久在线中文| 18网站在线观看| 天天免费亚洲黑人免费| 欧美久久亚洲| 99久久综合| 国产日韩欧美一区| 国产一区二区三区在线观看免费| av在线一区二区三区| 1区2区3区国产精品| 欧美视频13p| 日韩亚洲欧美在线观看| 中文字幕精品一区二区精品| 亚州精品天堂中文字幕| 国产成人福利| 免费h片在线| 日本在线观看视频| 小黄鸭精品aⅴ导航网站入口| 精品一区91| 国产精品久久久久无码av| 日韩精品电影在线| 91免费观看国产| 亚洲精选一二三| 51精品国自产在线| 一区二区三区视频免费| 亚洲另类图片另类电影| 日本h在线观看| 中文字幕在线免费播放| 青春草免费在线视频| 亚洲国产91视频| 欧洲美女日日| 日韩电影在线看| 久久综合九色综合97婷婷女人| 亚洲一区二区不卡免费| 欧美一区二区三区白人| 久久久成人的性感天堂| 欧美bbbbxxxx| 日韩欧美亚洲一区| 先锋影音在线资源站91| 成人在线视频国产| 外国成人激情视频| 国产乱子轮精品视频| 亚洲免费高清视频在线| 欧美一区二区免费| 久久国产加勒比精品无码| 中文字幕你懂得| 亚洲国产三级网| 久久综合av免费| 欧美日韩国产一区中文午夜| 日韩av在线免费看| 2021久久精品国产99国产精品| 九一免费看片| 成人激情电影在线看| jizz亚洲女人高潮大叫| 日韩精品影视| 亚洲女同同性videoxma| 成人国产精品免费观看动漫| 性做久久久久久久免费看| 亚洲精品一区二区三区福利| 久久久久久伊人| 2020天天干夜夜爽| 欧美成人hd| 日本精品视频| 日韩一区二区免费看| 91老师片黄在线观看| 色视频一区二区| 久久精品成人欧美大片古装| 性爱视频日本| yw在线观看| www.欧美视频| 激情丁香综合| 久久精品一区蜜桃臀影院| 欧美调教femdomvk| 精品国产一区二区三区久久狼5月 精品国产一区二区三区久久久狼 精品国产一区二区三区久久久 | 日本一区二区三区国色天香 | 欧美久久婷婷综合色| 欧美成人黄色小视频| 黄视频在线观看www| 免费超碰在线| 国产精品传媒| 日本亚洲欧美天堂免费| 亚洲精品免费在线| 日韩精品在线视频| 久久久久久久美女| 四虎国产精品成人免费4hu| 亚洲午夜av在线| 欧美不卡视频一区发布| 欧美残忍xxxx极端| 一道精品视频一区二区三区男同| 日日夜夜免费精品| 国产私人影院| 狠狠久久五月精品中文字幕| 99在线观看免费视频精品观看| 国产成人高清视频| 91官网在线观看| 一区三区二区视频| 欧美人与z0zoxxxx特| 中文字幕在线永久在线视频 | 在线观看日韩av| 天堂电影院在线| а√天堂官网中文在线| 琪琪久久久久日韩精品| 精品一区二区三区在线播放视频| 激情亚洲一区二区三区四区| 久久亚洲精品成人| 久草在线免费二| 久久精品女人天堂av免费观看| 欧美日韩成人| 中文字幕一区二区三区在线播放| 日韩电影中文字幕在线观看| 一个人免费播放在线视频看片| 精品欧美色视频网站在线观看| 亚洲精品一级二级三级| 高清视频一区二区| 欧美理论电影在线| 久草免费资源| 91精品专区| 久久综合欧美| 国产精品亚洲午夜一区二区三区| 在线亚洲免费视频| 91产国在线观看动作片喷水| 天堂√在线中文官网在线| 日韩三级不卡| 国精产品一区一区三区mba桃花| 色噜噜狠狠成人中文综合| 欧美激情按摩在线| 一级片免费在线观看| 波多野结衣在线一区二区| 另类小说综合欧美亚洲| 欧美中文字幕一区二区三区| 欧美激情久久久久久| 羞羞视频在线免费看| 加勒比色综合久久久久久久久 | 国产综合网站| 亚洲一区二区欧美日韩| 欧美黄色免费网站| 少妇性bbb搡bbb爽爽爽欧美| 麻豆成人入口| 99久久婷婷国产综合精品电影| 精品三级在线看| 黄色网址网站| av激情成人网| 麻豆成人久久精品二区三区小说| 日韩欧美中文字幕在线观看| 亚洲高清色图| 国产美女福利在线| 女人天堂亚洲aⅴ在线观看| 一区二区在线观看免费| 欧美国产精品人人做人人爱| 人人九九精品| 俺要去色综合狠狠| 中文字幕在线不卡国产视频| 日韩中文字幕久久| 久艹在线视频| 亚洲激情77| 欧美国产精品中文字幕| 日韩中文字幕国产精品| 一起操在线观看| 精品久久久中文字幕| 国产精品久久一级| 最近中文字幕2019免费| 天天爽夜夜爽| 国产精品亚洲欧美一级在线| 国产精品538一区二区在线| 精品国产亚洲在线| 97在线资源在| 一区二区日韩| 久久九九全国免费| 久久久久www| 欧洲视频在线免费观看| 久久99国产精品视频| 久久久亚洲精品一区二区三区| 日韩成人在线电影网| 国产中文字幕第一页| 成人在线视频你懂的| 2欧美一区二区三区在线观看视频| 夜夜嗨av一区二区三区四区| 国内精品卡一卡二卡三新区| 国产毛片一区二区三区| 亚洲人亚洲人成电影网站色| 98视频在线噜噜噜国产| av官网在线播放| 免费久久99精品国产自在现线| 欧美日韩另类一区| 秋霞毛片大全| 欧美电影院免费观看| 久久综合一区二区| 久久激情视频久久| 爱爱爱免费视频在线观看| 国语自产精品视频在线看8查询8| 91黄色免费版| 任你操在线观看| 日韩在线影院| 黄色小说综合网站| 亚洲欧美日韩中文视频| 日产精品久久久久久久性色| 欧美黄在线观看| 午夜在线电影亚洲一区| 欧美白人猛性xxxxx交69| 欧美美女日韩| 高潮精品一区videoshd| 国产午夜精品视频| 精品99又大又爽又硬少妇毛片| 欧美午夜电影在线观看| 欧美色手机在线观看| eeuss影院www免费影院| 99re8这里有精品热视频8在线| 国产精品不卡一区| 男人插女人下面视频| 成人美女黄网站| 成人免费视频网站在线观看| 色吧影院999| 老司机午夜在线视频| 羞羞答答国产精品www一本 | 在线观看欧美日本| 黄视频在线观看www| 中文字幕av一区二区三区四区| 亚洲欧美影音先锋| 欧美妇乱xxxxx视频| 97精品资源在线观看| 中文字幕免费观看一区| 男人天堂2017| 国内精品伊人| 国产精品天美传媒| 国产精品免费看| 欧美伦理视频网站| 国产国产国产国产国产国产| 色综合久久网| 精品国产乱码久久久久久虫虫漫画 | 91一区二区三区在线| 麻豆视频一区二区| 中文字幕精品一区久久久久| 欧美videos极品另类| 久久国产剧场电影| 在线中文字幕日韩| 宅男在线观看免费高清网站| 日本视频一区二区| 在线成人激情视频| 日韩精品亚洲人成在线观看| 国产成人在线视频免费播放| 欧美精品在线免费| 涩涩视频在线播放| 91色在线porny| 中国女人精69xxxxxx视频| 深夜视频一区二区| 国产目拍亚洲精品99久久精品| 99久久亚洲| 亚洲不卡视频| 一区二区不卡在线播放 | 日韩午夜电影网| 在线成人免费观看| 天堂中文在线视频| 日本美女一区二区三区| 日韩最新在线视频| 二区三区四区高清视频在线观看| 久久精品亚洲一区二区| 亚洲人精品午夜在线观看| 一色桃子av在线| aaa亚洲精品一二三区| 亚洲最大激情网| 亚洲1区在线观看| 91精品久久久久久综合五月天| 99九九99九九九视频精品| 91精品国产色综合久久不卡98口| 国产成人a视频高清在线观看| 亚洲色图欧洲色图婷婷| 美美女免费毛片| 亚洲第一天堂| 亚洲精品v天堂中文字幕| 黄色免费在线观看| 成人综合婷婷国产精品久久免费| 91成人在线观看国产| 国产麻豆一区二区三区| 亚洲成av人片www| 东北一级毛片| 香蕉久久国产| 日韩中文字幕免费| 日本成人伦理电影| 18欧美乱大交hd1984| av午夜电影| 黄色工厂这里只有精品| 精品国产麻豆免费人成网站| 国产在线观看网站| 国模娜娜一区二区三区| 亚洲色图偷拍| 欧美男人操女人视频| 欧美久久久久中文字幕| 韩国三级av在线免费观看| 国产一区不卡在线| 美女把尿口扒开让男人桶在线观看| 精品av导航| 6080午夜不卡| 一级毛片视频在线| 91小视频免费看| 欧美乱妇高清无乱码免费| 欧美色图在线播放| 亚洲精品suv精品一区二区| av不卡高清| 中文字幕在线不卡国产视频| 操操操com| 一区二区三区国产在线| 久久久国产91| 亚洲视频资源| 91久久一区二区| 岛国大片在线观看| 91视频精品在这里| 四虎4hu影库永久地址| 色橹橹欧美在线观看视频高清| 91精品国产美女浴室洗澡无遮挡| 国产美女在线观看| 中文字幕av不卡| 日本成人免费| 免费久久精品视频| 亚洲男人天堂2020| 欧洲激情视频| 精品一区二区三区三区|