After how many dates would you kiss someone, send them a Facebook friend request or spend the night with them?
約會幾次后你會親吻對方，發出臉譜網的好友請求或與其一起過夜？

According to a new study exploring the dos and don'ts of dating, you shouldn't lock lips until the second date or connect on Facebook until at least the third. And don't even dream of jumping into bed with them before the fourth rendezvous.
根據一項對人們約會守則的新調查，直到第二次約會你才能與對方親吻、至少第三次約會才能在臉譜網上聯系。甚至在第四次約會之前都不要夢想著與之同床共枕。

The research, commissioned by TLC’s new dating show Undressed, also suggests that men should be the first text after a successful date and women should respond within a quarter of an hour if keen.
該研究由旅游生活頻道（TLC）的新相親節目《脫光》委托進行，研究結果也表明，在一次成功的約會后男方應該首先給對方發短信，而如果女方對其很感興趣應該在15分鐘內回復。

When it comes to messaging, a maximum of two kisses is all that is required as an end note.
說到發短信，作為結束聊天的信號最多是兩個吻。

Any more might be too 'over the top', while any less could apparently come across as ‘cold’. A definite no-no is waiting for the other person to text first.
兩個以上可能會“太過”，而少于兩個則可能給人明顯“冷淡”的印象。明確的禁忌是等待對方先發短信。

Half of the 1,500 Brits quizzed in the study said it was important for their potential love interest to make contact first - which means the other half of daters will be left disappointed.
受訪的1500名英國人中有一半表示，潛在的戀愛對象先聯系自己很重要——這意味著另外一半的約會對象會感到失望。

It seems that 'playing it cool' isn't in vogue anymore either. A third of respondents said they would text back within a quarter of an hour, with only five percent saying they’d wait as long as two hours.
看來“裝酷”也不時尚了。三分之一的受訪者表示，他們會在15分鐘內回復短信，只有5%的人說他們會等長達兩個小時后再回復。

Just 23 percent of people think that texting back straight away is a sign of being 'too keen' with the majority of Brits saying they are happy to get right back in contact with a love interest.
僅23%的人認為立即回復短信是“太急切”的信號，大多數英國人表示他們很高興立即收到愛慕對象的回復。

However, when it comes to communicating online it becomes even stickier territory.
然而，當涉及到網上交流時，這就變成更加棘手的領域。

On average, the survey recommends that it's best to wait until some point between the third and fourth dates before sending a Facebook friend request or following a beau on Twitter.
該調查建議，平均而言，最好是等到第三次與第四次約會之間的某個時間發送臉譜網的好友請求，或在推特上關注情郎。

RULES OF DATING
約會守則

Send first text message: After one date
發送第一個短信：一次約會之后

Go for first kiss: After two dates
第一次親吻：兩次約會之后

Send Facebook friend request: After three dates
發送臉譜網好友請求：三次約會之后

Spend the night: After four dates
一起過夜：四次約會之后

Allow your partner to undress you: After five dates
讓你的伴侶為你寬衣解帶：五次約會之后

Introduce partner to friends: After five dates
把伴侶介紹給朋友：五次約會之后

Jo Hemmings, behavioral Psychologist for TLC’s Undressed, says that dating has become increasingly difficult in the technological era, with people having to 'carefully orchestrate' what they want to say.
旅游生活頻道《脫光》節目邀請的行為心理學家喬-荷明斯說，在技術時代約會已經變得越來越困難，人們不得不“精心策劃”自己想說的話。

She continued: 'The advance of smartphones has made dating both easier, and more difficult.
她接著說：“智能手機的發展使約會變得更容易也更困難。”

'Our parents may have had nothing more complicated to worry about than when to ring a date up on the landline, but these days there are dozens of methods of communication that all have to be carefully orchestrated.'
“我們的父母輩需要擔心的最復雜的問題不過是用固定電話定下約會日期，但如今許多溝通手段都需要精心策劃。”

Half of the survey participants said they'd looked up a potential date online before meeting in person, to get a feel for their personality and see more pictures - and 15 percent revealed they’d cancelled a date after seeing something on social media they didn’t like.
調查參與者中的一半表示，見面之前他們會在網上搜索未來的約會對象，來感受對方的個性，以及查看對方更多的照片——15%的人透露，在社交媒體上看到自己不喜歡的東西后，他們會取消約會。

When actually on the date, there are countless faux pas to avoid - the worst of the lot being talking about an ex too much, followed by poor personal hygiene.
在實際約會時，要避免無數種失禮——最糟糕的是過多談論前任，其次是個人衛生太差。

One in ten said they would cancel a date with someone if they talked about themselves too much in messages.
十分之一的人表示，如果對方在短信聊天時過多談論自己，他們就會取消與對方的約會。

The reasons for going cold after a date range from the banal to the bizarre, with one respondent admitting that he couldn’t stop staring at a date’s mole, and another saying simply, ‘They punched my cat.’
在一次約會之后關系變冷的原因各種各樣，有的老套，有的離奇。其中一位受訪者承認他情不自禁地盯著約會對象的痣，而另一個則說：“他們用拳頭揍了我的貓。”

Although the study shows that three is the magic number when it comes to the number of dates needed before an overnight stay, one in ten said they need more than ten meetings to get to that point.
雖然這項研究顯示，當說到一起過夜之前需要幾次約會時，這個神奇的數字是三，但十分之一的人表示，要達到過夜的程度他們需要十次以上的約會。

Clare Laycock, head of channels at TLC & Investigation Discovery, said she hopes the survey results will help singletons successfully navigate the dating scene.
克萊爾?萊科克是旅游生活頻道以及調查探索頻道的主管，她說希望調查結果能幫助單身人士成功駕馭約會現場。

Vocabulary

dos and don'ts：注意事項，行為準則
rendezvous：約會
faux pas：失禮，失態
banal：陳腐的，平庸的，老一套的

英文來源：每日郵報
翻譯：實習生朱善美
編審：yaning