It's one thing if you talk about a variety of other people — including exes — during your conversation, but it's another if the guy you like is constantly talking about women he finds attractive or interesting.
如果你們聊天時談到其他各種人，比如各種前任，這是一回事兒，但是如果你喜歡的對象不停談?wù)撍信d趣的女生，這又是另一回事兒。

Pay attention to the tone of these interactions and take them at face value. If he is trying to build a relationship with you, he will focus on getting to know you better instead of wasting time talking about other women.
注意這些對話的語氣，予以重視。如果他想要和你維持良好的關(guān)系，他會花更多的注意力在你身上，而不會浪費時間討論其他女性。

Pro tip: If he's telling you about the dates he's going on, he clearly wants you to know that he's seeing other people.
小貼士：如果他告訴你他的約會計劃，那么他就是在明確告訴你他有喜歡的人了。

6. He doesn't make an effort
他從不為你花心思

When we like someone, we tend to go that extra mile to impress them. We might brush up on the things that they like, surprise them with their favorite meal, or even just put a little more effort into feeling and looking our best.
當(dāng)我們喜歡上一個人時，為了給對方留下深刻印象，我們往往會多付出一些。可能會牢記他們喜歡的東西，準(zhǔn)備他們最愛的食物制造驚喜，或者多花點心思讓自己處于最佳狀態(tài)。

Does the guy you're into look like he just rolled out of bed every time you see him? Does he forget your interests and let you make all of the plans? Do you feel unimportant? If so, you might want to find a new crush.
你每次看到喜歡的對象時，他是不是看起來像剛起床的樣子？他會忘記你的興趣，讓你制定所有的計劃嗎？你有被輕視的感覺嗎？如果是這樣，你可能要換個人喜歡了。

Pro tip: If you feel like this is a one-sided relationship, even as a friendship, you need to decide whether it's truly worth your time.
小貼士：如果你覺得這是一段一頭熱的關(guān)系，即使是朋友關(guān)系，你也要決定是否有必要在上面浪費時間。

7. He refers to you as a friend
他把你稱作朋友

One of the easiest ways to determine your status is to pay attention to how the guy you like introduces you to his friends. You should also take note of how they react to meeting you.
要想確定你在他心中的位置，最簡單的方法之一就是看他如何向他的朋友們介紹你。你也應(yīng)該注意他們見到你時的反應(yīng)。

Consider it a positive sign if he uses your first name (bonus points if people seem to have heard of you!), but if he makes a point of referring to you as his "friend," there's a good chance that he doesn't want you to become more than that.
如果他介紹你時不帶姓地稱呼你，那這是個積極的信號（如果他的朋友中有人似乎聽說過你，那么可以加分）。但是如果他稱你為他的“朋友”，那很可能說明，他不想和你超越這層關(guān)系。

Pro tip: If he puts extra emphasis on the fact that you are just friends in front of other women, take the hint.
小貼士：如果他在其他女人面前特別強調(diào)你和他僅僅是朋友……那就死心吧。

8. Be open to friendship
接受朋友關(guān)系

While it might be disappointing to learn that your crush doesn't share your romantic feelings, don't shut down the possibility of a friendship. If you have things in common and enjoy spending time together, try to see if you can manage your expectations.
雖然得知你喜歡的人并不喜歡你可能讓人很失落，但也別把成為朋友的可能性扼殺掉。如果你們有共同的愛好并且享受在一起的時光，那就試著調(diào)整自己的期望。

Of course, if it's too difficult and you find yourself pining over him, you should probably keep your distance. Also, never enter a friendship with the goal of making someone fall for you.
當(dāng)然，如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)這樣太困難了，而且你每天都在為他難過，你可能就需要和他保持距離了。此外，永遠不要以“讓他人愛上你”為目標(biāo)開始一段友誼。

Instead, be cool and let things unfold on their own. Besides, who knows who you might find in his circle of friends, right?
相反，要保持淡定，讓一切順其自然。而且，誰知道你會在他的朋友圈遇到誰呢，你說對不對？

英文來源：thelist.com
翻譯&編輯：董靜
審校：丹妮